tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18659479.post115273010366962651..comments2023-08-25T09:17:55.016-04:00Comments on She is able...: I Am a Grown-Ass Woman...Stop Telling Me How to BeL. Britthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11636048549849790456noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18659479.post-1152824312545010402006-07-13T16:58:00.000-04:002006-07-13T16:58:00.000-04:00I think people misread tones to be more confrontat...I think people misread tones to be more confrontational than they really are-often I find people say calm down, or chill out to me when I am just being straight forward as to what I want or need. People are so afraid of confrontation that they cause it. "Calm down" is such a passive aggressive way of putting someone in there place. I also think it is especially unnerving for woman to hear it from men because we are more emotional and do tend to rise on the temperment thermometer. Its the easiest button to push. I think you are totally in the right to simply want a time or a reply that atleast says "I don't know can I call you after your meeting?"<BR/><BR/>JeeshAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18659479.post-1152806468305792562006-07-13T12:01:00.000-04:002006-07-13T12:01:00.000-04:00Hmmm - I have found that people without kids, dogs...Hmmm - I have found that people without kids, dogs or very busy lives do not appreciate that our lives are not the carefree "sure, I can do it anytime" avenues of fun they used to be. <BR/>How about just saying to this person up front, that saying calm down makes me feel the opposite and try to explain what you mean. If they are not dumb or just plain jerks they will catch on. Sometimes we have to spell it out - interestingly, something I feel much more comfortable doing with men than my women friends. I find it hard to tell them what bugs me about their behavior. It's all where we're coming from, I guess. Hang in there ma chereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18659479.post-1152734314042086692006-07-12T15:58:00.000-04:002006-07-12T15:58:00.000-04:00Does said friend know that those words make you fl...Does said friend know that those words make you flip out? I tend to get angry/suspicious when someone says, "You'll appreciate this..." before launching into some half-cocked story that generally insults me. I know it's not the same thing, but I can relate.<BR/><BR/>You're not crazy. Needing a plan isn't crazy - it's mature.The Roverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14466612618338867286noreply@blogger.com